Proven: Girlfriends are good for our health!


I just spent two luxurious hours with my friend, Carol. Yes, I deliberately choose the word “luxurious” to describe my time with her. Synonyms for “luxurious” are: comfy, deluxe, and splendid. Let me add my own: rich, fun, refreshing, relaxing. After meeting with Carol, I’m a better person.

I’d like to give credit where credit is due, but I don’t know where the following article came from. I read it somewhere, printed it off, but there is no name that goes with it. But here’s what it said.

“In an evening class at Stanford the last lecture was on the mind-body connection—the relationship between stress and disease. The speaker (head of psychiatry at Stanford) said, among other things, that one of the best things that man could do for his health is to be married to a woman. Whereas for a woman, one of the best things she could do for her health was to nurture her relationships with her girlfriends. At first everyone laughed, but he was serious. Women connect with each other differently and provide support systems that help each other to deal with stress and difficult life experiences. Physically this quality girlfriend time ‘helps us to create more serotonin—a neurotransmitter that helps combat depression and can create a general feeling of well-being.’ Women share feelings whereas men often form relationships around activities. They rarely sit down with a buddy and talk about how they feel about certain things or how their personal lives are going. Jobs? Yes. Sports? Yes. Cars? Yes. Fishing, hunting, golf? Yes. But their feelings? Rarely.

Women do it all of the time. We share from our souls with our sisters/mothers, and evidently that is very GOOD for our health. He said that spending time with a friend is just as important to our general health as jogging or working out at a gym. There’s a tendency to think that when we are “exercising” we are doing something good for our bodies, but when we are hanging out with friends, we are wasting our time and should be more productively engaged. Not true! In fact, he said that failure to create and maintain quality personal relationships with other humans is as dangerous to our physical health as smoking!”

WOW! There’s a pretty good reason for going to lunch with your gal pal! I know I’ve always felt better after lunch with a friend, but now I know why…it’s natural, and yes, even scientifically proven! Hmmm…”scientifically proven” in my opinion is just another way to say “God-created” or “God-ordained.” After all, God is the one who created us, so He’s naturally the one who created women to benefit from needing and helping each other.

(I want to make a side note here: That quote up above is not about guy-bashing. I love my hubby, and I really do appreciate men and what they have to offer in the world! But just like I have to appreciate their drive to “hunt”, I love the fact that we can appreciate our “girl fellowship.”)

So here’s to my girlfriends, near and far. You know who you are! I appreciate each and every one of you: the 3 hours lunch dates, the 2 a.m. emergency talks, my Red Tent girls, the friends that make me laugh, or the ones who say I make them laugh, the ones who bring me closer to God, the ones who are honest with me even if it hurts, the girlfriends who stick by me when things look dark, those who cry with me, and of course, you my facebook and vlog friends!

Let’s “provide that support system” and leave a comment! And then we’ll do lunch. ☺


About lauriebarkercopeland

I'm just like you, but totally unique. We have things in common, but we are all God's one-of-a-kind creatures. I enjoy finding The Funny in life when it gets messy. And we all know how life can get messy, right? Some of the things I love: God, family, friends, storytelling, community, nature, the arts, beauty, travel, fun and games, learning, the study of the personalities, teenagers, acting, writing and missions. More specifically: the mountains, the beach, breathing clean air, traveling to new places, experiences, deep conversations, appreciating the minute in nature, lunching with girlfriends, practicing sensing, predicting trends, taking a few risks along the way. I hate routine, so starting (and keeping up) this vlog is risky for me...but I love community (and a few risks), so I'm going for it! I hope you join me and we can have some Serious Fun together!

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