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Are you a Human Being or a Human Do-ing?

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I’ve heard it before—Life is more about the journey than the destination. You’ve heard it, too? When I hear that statement, I nod my head in agreement, like I know. Uh huh.

Last week was one of those weeks. I was running from one thing to the next, pencil poised over the to-do list, anxious to check things off. A wedding loomed on Saturday, written on my calendar for months, staring at me every day that previous week. Don’t get me wrong. We are good friends with the parents of the groom. I love hanging out with these people. I just wasn’t in a good place. I was weary and preoccupied and simply worn out.

(Side note: I know that Christ is the source of my joy. He is my strength. Without even trying, I have a peace that rolls beneath all the turmoil of what goes on. But recently, my life has been kinda like a storm at sea. It’s calm deep down, but on the top? The winds are whipping the waves up into a frenzy!)

We went to the wedding, and it was like medicine to the soul. New love. Old friends. Crazy pictures. ☺ As I sat there watching everyone talking, loving, communicating around the table at the reception, it felt really good.

Life is a journey. Birth, marriage, baptism, missions trips, Bible studies, picnics, church services, concerts, plays, movies, vacations, dinners together and even the Super Bowl. Let’s break it down even further: laughing together, crying together, praying together, sharing together, learning together, playing together, helping each other. We want to share these episodes together. It’s what makes up life. Not the destination.

I know this to be true. But I get so caught up with crossing items off my to-do list. There’s a quote that says “Am I more focused on the ‘to do’ than I am on what I’m called ‘to be’? Since I read that, I’ve made it a point to “be” more. To help more. But I wrestle with my wanting to get things done. It’s a constant struggle.

There once was a little boy and a dad. One day, the little boy begged his dad to take him fishing. His dad looked at his to-do list, but his wife encouraged him to go. He reluctantly agreed. Afterwards, when the boy was helping the mom prepare dinner, she asked him how it went. The boy talked for 15 minutes straight in great detail about how wonderful the day was. He ended with “it was a day I’ll always remember!” Later that night, when they prepared for bed, the mom asked her husband the same question. He sighed and said, “I didn’t get a thing done.”

How often am I like that dad? I remembered that story almost daily when Kailey was growing up. Now that she’s an adult and moved out of the house, it still applies. That’s why I want to take more time out to relax and enjoy family and friends, pray, laugh or help others. I know very well how hard it is when life requires us to “do.” I’m just thinking it would be cool if we could work it in our crazy schedule every once in awhile. The journey is what makes life wonderful. Doing things with each other, for each other, enjoying each other.

Here’s a sample of the fun we enjoyed together at the wedding…

Have you ever seen the classic movie “White Christmas?”  There’s a song in there about sisters.  Here’s Libby and me trying really hard to be like them.  (haha!)

And then, in the movie, Bing Crosby and Danny Kaye re-enact the Sisters song.  Complete with feather fan and headbands.  Here’s our husbands doing the same.  🙂  (We didn’t have to bribe them…much.)